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If barometric pressure is a migraine trigger, as it is for me, I'm wondering if the sense of pressure felt by some people when using noise-cancelling earphones can be a migraine trigger
https://www.howtogeek.com/423960/why-do-noise-canceling-headphones-hurt-my-ears/
https://www.howtogeek.com/423960/why-do-noise-canceling-headphones-hurt-my-ears/
Answer: the dom respects your pain limits. Story (because of course there is a story) follows.
I had a dentist appt. today with a dentist at my public health clinic. I've had him before, and I already didn't like him, because
he doesn't really listen, but today was the first time he was going to actually do a filling.
He gives me the shot of anesthesia, and a few seconds later begins poking me with a sharp pointy object and asking if I can feel that. I admit, I kind of hesitated, because I was trying to do the calculation
of whether I should ask for more anesthesia now or wait. I said yes, that hurt, but he gets all challenging: am I feeling actual pain? I replied yes, I could feel that he was poking me with a sharp object, so then he pokes the other side of my mouth and says is that painful? I'm beginning to get annoyed, so I said very specifically that yes, it felt the same being poked with a sharp pointy object on both sides of my mouth. He's still challenging me, and alternating it with telling me to open my mouth wider (I actually have a small mouth, which he finally figured out), and keep my chin up. He starts putting more tools into my mouth, with another severe command that I have to keep my chin up, and I can tell he is not going to give me more anesthesia.
Which is when I begin having a PTSD attack.
Seriously, I don't even have these anymore.
So I make a time-out sign with my hands and begin stuttering out, two words at a time, that I can't do this because I am having a PTSD attack, and then Alexx steps in and asks if I want to go home, and all I can do is basically nod.
I've spent my fair share of time in dungeons, and I never felt unsafe, but doctors--what the fuck?? Am I seriously expected to argue with someone over whether I can feel pain or not? Would I be having to have this argument if I was male?
I'm just sorry I didn't bite him. "Oh, are you sure you can feel that? How about now?"
I had a dentist appt. today with a dentist at my public health clinic. I've had him before, and I already didn't like him, because
he doesn't really listen, but today was the first time he was going to actually do a filling.
He gives me the shot of anesthesia, and a few seconds later begins poking me with a sharp pointy object and asking if I can feel that. I admit, I kind of hesitated, because I was trying to do the calculation
of whether I should ask for more anesthesia now or wait. I said yes, that hurt, but he gets all challenging: am I feeling actual pain? I replied yes, I could feel that he was poking me with a sharp object, so then he pokes the other side of my mouth and says is that painful? I'm beginning to get annoyed, so I said very specifically that yes, it felt the same being poked with a sharp pointy object on both sides of my mouth. He's still challenging me, and alternating it with telling me to open my mouth wider (I actually have a small mouth, which he finally figured out), and keep my chin up. He starts putting more tools into my mouth, with another severe command that I have to keep my chin up, and I can tell he is not going to give me more anesthesia.
Which is when I begin having a PTSD attack.
Seriously, I don't even have these anymore.
So I make a time-out sign with my hands and begin stuttering out, two words at a time, that I can't do this because I am having a PTSD attack, and then Alexx steps in and asks if I want to go home, and all I can do is basically nod.
I've spent my fair share of time in dungeons, and I never felt unsafe, but doctors--what the fuck?? Am I seriously expected to argue with someone over whether I can feel pain or not? Would I be having to have this argument if I was male?
I'm just sorry I didn't bite him. "Oh, are you sure you can feel that? How about now?"
Kes: I haven't read these two books yet, but I've been there, and know other women who are there, so wanted to spread the word.
Ask Me About My Uterus: A Quest to Make Doctors Believe in Women's Pain
by Abby Norman
For any woman who has experienced illness, chronic pain, or endometriosis comes an inspiring memoir advocating for recognition of women's health issuesIn the fall of 2010, Abby Norman's strong dancer's body dropped forty pounds and gray hairs began to sprout from her temples. She was repeatedly hospitalized in excruciating pain, but the doctors insisted it was a urinary tract infection and sent her home with antibiotics. Unable to get out of bed, much less attend class, Norman dropped out of college and embarked on what would become a years-long journey to discover what was wrong with her. It wasn't until she took matters into her own hands--securing a job in a hospital and educating herself over lunchtime reading in the medical library--that she found an accurate diagnosis of endometriosis.In Ask Me About My Uterus, Norman describes what it was like to have her pain dismissed, to be told it was all in her head, only to be taken seriously when she was accompanied by a boyfriend who confirmed that her sexual performance was, indeed, compromised. Putting her own trials into a broader historical, sociocultural, and political context, Norman shows that women's bodies have long been the battleground of a never-ending war for power, control, medical knowledge, and truth. It's time to refute the belief that being a woman is a preexisting condition.
Invisible: How Young Women with Serious Health Issues Navigate Work, Relationships, and the Pressure to Seem just Fine (Beacon press, 2018)
by Michele Lent Hirsch
https://www.amazon.com/Invisible-Serious-Navigate-Relationships-Pressure/dp/0807023957/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1520355679&sr=1-1&keywords=Invisible+How+young+women
An exploration of women navigating serious health issues at an age where they’re expected to be healthy, dating, having careers and children.Miriam’s doctor didn’t believe she had breast cancer. She did.Sophie navigates being the only black scientist in her lab while studying the very disease, HIV, that she hides from her coworkers.For Victoria, coming out as a transgender woman was less difficult than coming out as bipolar.Author Michele Lent Hirsch knew she couldn’t be the only woman who’s faced serious health issues at a young age, as well as the resulting effects on her career, her relationships, and her sense of self. What she found while researching Invisible was a surprisingly large and overlooked population with important stories to tell.Though young women with serious illness tend to be seen as outliers, young female patients are in fact the primary demographic for many illnesses. They are also one of the most ignored groups in our medical system—a system where young women, especially women of color and trans women, are invisible.And because of expectations about gender and age, young women with health issues must often deal with bias in their careers and personal lives. Not only do they feel pressured to seem perfect and youthful, they also find themselves amid labyrinthine obstacles in a culture that has one narrow idea of womanhood.Lent Hirsch weaves her own harrowing experiences together with stories from other women, perspectives from sociologists on structural inequality, and insights from neuroscientists on misogyny in health research. She shows how health issues and disabilities amplify what women in general already confront: warped beauty standards, workplace sexism, worries about romantic partners, and mistrust of their own bodies. By shining a light on this hidden demographic, Lent Hirsch explores the challenges that all women face.
Ask Me About My Uterus: A Quest to Make Doctors Believe in Women's Pain
by Abby Norman
For any woman who has experienced illness, chronic pain, or endometriosis comes an inspiring memoir advocating for recognition of women's health issuesIn the fall of 2010, Abby Norman's strong dancer's body dropped forty pounds and gray hairs began to sprout from her temples. She was repeatedly hospitalized in excruciating pain, but the doctors insisted it was a urinary tract infection and sent her home with antibiotics. Unable to get out of bed, much less attend class, Norman dropped out of college and embarked on what would become a years-long journey to discover what was wrong with her. It wasn't until she took matters into her own hands--securing a job in a hospital and educating herself over lunchtime reading in the medical library--that she found an accurate diagnosis of endometriosis.In Ask Me About My Uterus, Norman describes what it was like to have her pain dismissed, to be told it was all in her head, only to be taken seriously when she was accompanied by a boyfriend who confirmed that her sexual performance was, indeed, compromised. Putting her own trials into a broader historical, sociocultural, and political context, Norman shows that women's bodies have long been the battleground of a never-ending war for power, control, medical knowledge, and truth. It's time to refute the belief that being a woman is a preexisting condition.
Invisible: How Young Women with Serious Health Issues Navigate Work, Relationships, and the Pressure to Seem just Fine (Beacon press, 2018)
by Michele Lent Hirsch
https://www.amazon.com/Invisible-Serious-Navigate-Relationships-Pressure/dp/0807023957/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1520355679&sr=1-1&keywords=Invisible+How+young+women
An exploration of women navigating serious health issues at an age where they’re expected to be healthy, dating, having careers and children.Miriam’s doctor didn’t believe she had breast cancer. She did.Sophie navigates being the only black scientist in her lab while studying the very disease, HIV, that she hides from her coworkers.For Victoria, coming out as a transgender woman was less difficult than coming out as bipolar.Author Michele Lent Hirsch knew she couldn’t be the only woman who’s faced serious health issues at a young age, as well as the resulting effects on her career, her relationships, and her sense of self. What she found while researching Invisible was a surprisingly large and overlooked population with important stories to tell.Though young women with serious illness tend to be seen as outliers, young female patients are in fact the primary demographic for many illnesses. They are also one of the most ignored groups in our medical system—a system where young women, especially women of color and trans women, are invisible.And because of expectations about gender and age, young women with health issues must often deal with bias in their careers and personal lives. Not only do they feel pressured to seem perfect and youthful, they also find themselves amid labyrinthine obstacles in a culture that has one narrow idea of womanhood.Lent Hirsch weaves her own harrowing experiences together with stories from other women, perspectives from sociologists on structural inequality, and insights from neuroscientists on misogyny in health research. She shows how health issues and disabilities amplify what women in general already confront: warped beauty standards, workplace sexism, worries about romantic partners, and mistrust of their own bodies. By shining a light on this hidden demographic, Lent Hirsch explores the challenges that all women face.
